Holiday EQ Challenge, Part 2 of 2
The holiday season is upon us, and, ready or not, your emotional intelligence skills are about to be tested!
Last week we shared the first two composite scales and six dimensions of the EQ-i 2.0® model in ways that we hope offered useful distinctions while simultaneously making you smile.
This week we'll cover the remaining three composite scales and their nine individual dimensions.
Hopefully you are about to kick off at least a few days of well-earned downtime with family and friends, so let's get right to it!
The Interpersonal Composite
Interpersonal Relationships is...
The skill of developing and maintaining mutually satisfying relationships that are characterized by trust and compassion.
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Silently scrolling the social media feeds of people who are physically sitting right next to you. |
Remembering that at the end of their lives, people almost universally observe that relationships were the only thing that really mattered, and using the holidays to make the most of them. |
Empathy is...
Recognizing, understanding, and appreciating how other people feel; being able to articulate your understanding of another's perspective and behaving in a way that respects others' feelings.
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Re-gifting something to the person who gave the gift to you last year. (Not all these examples are made up...) |
Giving that meaningful gift that touches someone's heart, being able to see how much it meant on their face, and knowing you nailed it. |
Social Responsibility is...
Willingly contributing to society, to your social groups, and generally to the welfare of others; involves acting responsibly, having social consciousness, and showing concern for the greater community.
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Ebenezer Scrooge right up until the ghosts of Jacob Marley, Christmas Past, Christmas Present, and Christmas Yet to Come pay him a visit. Bah, humbug! |
Giving Bob Cratchit a big raise, sending Tiny Tim a turkey, and realizing that we're all in this together. |
The Decision Making Composite
Problem Solving is...
The ability to find solutions to problems in situations where emotions are involved; includes the ability to understand how emotions impact decision making.
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You learn the hard way that you can't start thawing the turkey the afternoon before dinner, so you freeze, too. |
Moving immediately into action, rerouting and rebooking like a travel ninja because neither traffic nor weather nor airport insanity will stop you from being with the ones you love. |
Reality Testing is...
The capacity to remain objective by seeing things as they really are; recognizing when emotions or personal bias can cause one to be less objective.
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You interpret the deafening silence during your seventeen-minute New Year's toast as people just really paying close attention. |
Loving the idea of the Rockefeller Center Christmas tree while remembering you have eight foot ceilings. |
Impulse Control is...
The ability to resist or delay an impulse, drive, or temptation to act and involves avoiding rash behaviors and decision making.
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If you need me to tell you what low Impulse Control looks like in the season of excess, you've probably eaten the whole tray of cookies and peeked at all your presents already. |
That obnoxious uncle corners you and launches his favorite political rant, but you channel Elsa from Frozen and Let It Go, Let it GO-OH! |
The Stress Management Composite
Flexibility is...
Adapting emotions, thoughts, and behaviors to unfamiliar, unpredictable, and dynamic circumstances or ideas.
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Continuing the awkward office party that everyone actually hates because "we've always done it that way." Who's ready for some mandatory fun?! |
Of course we can add six more for dinner this evening. The more the merrier. It's gonna be awesome! |
Stress Tolerance is...
Coping with stressful or difficult situations and believing that you can manage or influence situations in a positive manner.
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Collapsing in despair and throwing a full-on adult tantrum in the grocery store aisle because they're out of heavy cream. |
Acknowledging that the holiday season really can be a lot, pausing to take care of yourself when you need it, and knowing it's all gonna be okay. |
Optimism is...
An indicator of your positive attitude and outlook on life; involves remaining hopeful and resilient, despite occasional setbacks.
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Happy New Year? What's so happy about it? If only we could go back to the good ol' days... |
Knowing when the ball drops and the clock strikes midnight on January 1, 2025, we will begin a new year that will include challenges, but through which we can learn, grow, and thrive. |
See You in 2025!
That's all from us for 2024! We're taking a break next week.
Remember, you can use our Emotional Intelligence Essentials online course to learn more, and take the EQ-i 2.0 assessment to better understand your own emotional intelligence strengths, and your opportunities to grow.
Thank you for reading. We hope you find this valuable, and we wish you an amazing holiday.
Until next year,
Greg
