The Myth of Simple Plumbing Projects and a Static Self

As I stepped out of my car, two maple trees in peak fall splendor glowed with almost palpable warmth in the rose-colored early morning sunlight....

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Current Location: 47.5 Miles Off Course and Livid

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Those are the words of Carl Rogers, who, along with...

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Are You the Reason People Never Change?

You know the classic Peanuts cartoon: Lucy pulls the football away just as Charlie Brown is about to kick it, sending him flying head...

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Culture Is an Invisible Fence culture

Culture is critical to your organization. As a leader creating a healthy culture should be your top priority. “Culture eats strategy for...

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Self-Transforming Mind: Paradoxes and Lots of Gray adult development

Our final and most complex constructive-developmental stage is the Self-Transforming Mind. As we approach this lofty summit of our...

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Self-Authored Mind: Making Sense of a Messy Reality adult development

In our journey through the stages of adult development, we've explored the Impulsive Mind, the Self-Sovereign Mind, and the ...

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Socialized Mind: Moving the Goalposts adult development

We humans take socialization seriously, and for good reason. In the wild, humans cannot survive outside our social groups. Socialization is...

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Impulsive Mind: Understanding Our Little Egomaniacs adult development

Presumably, you have no six-year-olds on your project team (although you might have colleagues who lead you to believe otherwise on occasion). So,...

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What We Know Vs. How We Know It adult development

Jean Piaget characterized discrete stages of childhood cognitive development. Robert Kegan studies adult development, and has identified ongoing...

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Glitches in The Matrix: A Demand for Lifelong Development adult development

When you were 18 months old, you had the world all figured out. You could see, hear, feel, touch, and taste things. You could walk. You could make...

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Practicing the Fundamentals: The Subject-Object Shift adult development

What do streamline, color theory, anatomy, and arpeggios have in common?

If you guessed “fundamentals,” you get a gold star. Streamline...

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Behavior Change: The Problem Is a Solution

As of this week, it has been one year since I stopped drinking. As a person who has long been self-critical for my perceived lack of willpower,...

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Mornings with Martha: A Company Is A Social Group mornings with martha

We fool ourselves into separating social/personal from work/business. But a company is just a group of people. It is personal. It's all personal....

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The Same Conversation Is the Wrong Conversation

A member of your project team—let’s call him Flash—fails to complete an important task by the agreed-upon date. You have a...

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Mornings with Martha: Empathy mornings with martha

Empathy has long been a soft skill that's overlooked as a performance indicator. Top companies across industries —think, places you might...

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Why Do People Make Such Stupid Decisions? decision making

These are my feet. Because I know you were all just thinking, “what I’d really like right now is a photo of Greg’s feet.”...

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Mornings with Martha: The Clearing mornings with martha

Retexo co-owner Martha Walker explains how very conference room, boardroom, or Zoom room is like a clearing in the woods. In our encounters both...

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Untangling Our Reactions to Titan and the Other Disaster

Four days in June, 2023 will be remembered for two maritime disasters — maybe. The world was rapt in suspense when the Titan submersible...

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Mornings with Martha: Personality Tests mornings with martha

Personality tests, and personality psychology in general, are topics fraught with controversy. This morning, Retexo co-founder Martha Walker...

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How To Find Your (Literal) Blind Spots

Did you know you have a blind spot in each eye? And that your brain hides it from you?

None of us see the world as it is, but only as we interpret...

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Unless You Are an Octopus, You Have Blind Spots

Our eyes are amazing things, but it is our brains that are truly miraculous. The mind — our conscious experience — arises from our...

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Independence Without Isolation emotional intelligence

None of us are, or should be, truly independent. Without our relationships to others, we would not be who we are. Learning to navigate the winding...

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How To Be Assertive Without Being A Steamroller emotional intelligence

Healthy Assertiveness is a gift, but high and healthy are not the same thing. To be healthy, high assertiveness must be balanced by other...

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How To Be Misunderstood And Have Others Assume The Worst emotional intelligence

A poker face is an asset when playing poker, but I don’t like playing poker. In real life, it is a recipe for being misunderstood. I speak...

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